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Hey Parents,

Welcome to our first Thursday Thoughts.  I enjoyed meeting many of you on Sunday, and I look forward to serving you and your families in the coming year.  I hope you and your student will be encouraged to be a community that is informed and shaped by the cross leading to new creation.

My son Jed is now a big seven years old, but I am already experienced some tight lips when I ask him questions about school and life.  Some days he can talk till our ears ring and other days it is rough to get a peep.  At the Shepherd Press Blog, there was a great entry on Monologues and Teenagers:

The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge;
the ears of the wise seek it out. Proverbs 18:15

One of our readers left the following as part of a comment to the post, How Sin Works – Application to Teenagers:
“It is hard to dialogue and not monologue with a 13 year old who doesn’t respond. Any suggestion?”

This mom is not alone. Parents are frustrated by contrasts. Contrasts, such as when you observe your teenager talking a mile-a-minute with friends and yet, when you talk with him, his exuberance collapses into strained monosyllables.
Did you have a good day? Sort of.
How was your test? Okay.
Do you have homework? Maybe.
Do you have plans this weekend? Not sure.
Is anything bothering you? No.
Did you clean your room? Not yet.
I thought maybe we could talk later on. Why?
What did you think of the sermon? It was okay.
Why are you so hard to talk to? Aw, mom.
After you finish with a well-intended assessment of how things can be better, including appropriate Bible verses, your son says, Can I go now?

Such exchanges are disheartening. After the time and energy spent in raising your child to the teenage years, with all the love you have in your heart for him, it seems unfair and confusing for your child to act as though your relationship with him is such a burden. So what do you do – think of more creative monologues?

You can read the rest of part 1 here, part II here, part III here

Have a great week! Don’t forget to post comments and tell me what you think.

Until all have heard,

Justin

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